24 Aug Jason’s New Blog | How Do You Help An Addict and Get Results?
Those reading this blog today probably already know me and my story. For those who don’t know me yet, I hope to build a relationship with you and help you along your journey. To my friends, thank you for your continued support and love. I need your help as I prepare to launch my book, UNHOOKED: How to Help an Addict and GET RESULTS! As we go down the road, I ask for your help. Please share these blogs on your social media. The only way I can cast a wide net and reach those who are struggling will be through you. I want to thank you for your willingness to help me provide solutions to those in pain, and in fulfilling my purpose and my mission to be a light in dark places.
Addiction can seem to be a complicated phenomenon, yet its symptoms are predictable. Along the way, I will teach you what you need to know to put yourself on the offense, rather than the defense. You can make a difference, even though some say you must stand by and wait until your addict hits rock bottom. This is not my experience. Although I hit rock bottom multiple times, it was a result of my family’s continuous hard work, boundaries, effort, prayers, and the practice of appropriate principles that facilitated my change. You can do the same and do what my family did for me. Also, I will share with you what they did that didn’t work, which is equally valuable.
As we develop our relationship with one another, I hope to provide you with value, free of charge. Stay with me and you will learn to recognize the behaviors, warning signs, and tactics used by addicts; furthermore, you will understand where they stem from. I will give you awareness of how an addict thinks, how we operate, how we act and react while in our sickness. I will help you operate from a space of empathy, collaboration, and understanding. I will empower you to set clear and reasonable boundaries, manage your expectations, react appropriately to misbehavior, and do so in a non-judgmental healthy way. I will teach you how to offer the right kind of help. I have so much to share and I am excited to share it here, with you. Let’s begin:
It Starts with Boundaries
Personal boundaries are the limits we set for ourselves in any relationship to protect us from being manipulated by, or enmeshed with emotionally-needy people. In other words, boundaries help us establish where I end, and you begin.
What is inside your control? What is outside of your control? You may have serious concerns toward your addicted loved one. However, this does not mean he feels the same way. Let’s put the focus on him for a moment, and look at the reasons why boundaries are so important.
Why Are Boundaries Important?
The moment my parents set their first boundary with me, my life changed. After rummaging through their personal items, stealing some cash, and pawning my dad’s rare coin collection, they finally set their first physical boundary: I was not allowed in their house unsupervised. Not only that, but when I was inside their home, I was only allowed in the common areas. This was the beginning of helping me in my addiction. It was not easy for my parents to set the boundary, let alone hold to it.
Boundaries are not easy. Period. However, no relationship, and certainly no growth in your relationship is sustainable without boundaries. Boundary setting is a measure of protection and an act of self-love. Boundary expert, Brené Brown explains, “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” She also says, “Empathy minus boundaries is not empathy. Compassion minus boundaries is not genuine. Vulnerability without boundaries is not vulnerability.” In other words, the moment you courageously set a boundary, it will expand your self-love, self-respect, and even freedom.
Boundaries are healing to your soul. It is difficult to help someone else if you are not well yourself. Take the oxygen mask protocol on an airplane: Before you help your child put on their mask, you must make sure your mask is on securely first. Then, and only then, you will operate at optimum efficiency. This example is trite, but it helps point out the obvious. It saves lives, just like good boundaries do. I will get into how to set boundaries in another blog coming soon.
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