27 Sep “Choosing Happy” | KSL TV Special
“When I focus on what’s good today, I have a good day, and when I focus on what’s bad, I have a bad day. If I focus on a problem, the problem increases; if I focus on the answer, the answer increases.” (pg. 419 Alcoholics Anonymous).
Do you consider yourself a happy person?
As I get older, I observe that there are two types of people: those who focus on problems, and those who focus on solutions. In other words, those who breathe life into us, or those who suck the life out of us. I probably shouldn’t use labels, but I appropriately labeled the latter, “Serenity Suckers.”
I decided when I got sober that I wasn’t going to squander my time hanging around with “Serenity Suckers” any longer. It was a new beginning. If I was to stay sober, I needed to begin surrounding myself with people who seek light, who are honest, and who love to serve others. “We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.”
This decision changed my future.
A couple years later, as a graduate student, a woman with a bright smile and positive energy entered the classroom. I could feel it instantly. She was gorgeous. Her name was Brin and I had to get to know her. I asked her out for sushi and in a few short months, we were engaged to be married. She emulates light, love, and positivity in every situation. Brin and I decided together that we would always help one another focus on the positive by finding the silver lining in every situation.
Brin’s light can be summarized in the words of Viktor Frankl, “What gives light must endure burning.” She has experienced intense burning indeed.
One October night in 2004, Brin, a young bride at the time, lived her worst nightmare. That night the police gently shared the news that her handsome, supportive, and loving husband was not coming home. The officer reported that Brian, her husband, was killed in an automobile accident on his way home from golfing in Eugene, Oregon. The news launched Brin headlong into a dark and lonely abyss. She rapidly sunk into a depression and isolation that only those who have lost loved-ones can relate to.
Thankfully, for the last 12 years, my wife has dedicated herself to doing the work required to create a life of happiness and joy. Brin has transcended the pain, grief, and depression by choosing to maintain a positive attitude even in the face of opposition. Her optimistic smile and attitude is infectious to all who know my wife.
It is an honor to be married to this woman. I am excited to be featured along-side Brin in a special television show appropriately titled: “Choosing Happy.” It will air on KSL TV, KSL.com, and the KSL YouTube channel this Saturday, October 1st at 1:30-2:00pm MDT. I will post the link after it has aired for those who miss it.
As a bonus, Brin and I are honored to rub shoulders with some of our heroes. Their stories are also featured in this episode. To learn more about their inspiring stories, click on the names of Ashlee Birk, Nathan Ogden, and Josie Thompson Solomon. Thank you for your commitment to choose happiness. Keep shining Light into dark places. The world needs your positivity.